Acknowledging that some of your needs simply aren’t going to be met during this time is an important step, though it is painful and requires a lot of emotional processing. Some of these needs can be met partially or in other ways, but this is not always possible. Accept and validate your grief, and treat yourself gently.
Spoons are extra valuable right now, because if you’re like me, everything that I need to do seems to cost more energy than it did when this year started. I am happy if I can get through a day with all of the basics done for the household, and I changed out of my pajamas.